Personal Development

Wishing versus Wanting and how to turn from dreams to real gains

In the country where I Live, we have a saying, “If you want to turn your dreams into success, you have to work hard.” While this looks true initially, many people continue to trust illusionary opportunities like lotteries, customer competition at different chains of stores, etc. Does this seem familiar? I experience it daily. So many people wish to get something that little works to get the same thing and succeed.

Wishing is an act of dreaming. People wish to:

  • Be rich
  • Become successful
  • Be seen as significant factors in a particular area
  • Feel winners across others

In all these areas, wishes are a powerful instrument of dreaming. Wishing for something does not mean that you will get it. Wishing is more like generating possible images for the future in our brains. We use it to find our excuses not to deal with the challenge. It gives us an illusionary expression of what can be without directions on how to reach there. Everyone has a wishing part in their life that they are experiencing. Dreams in this part of life are powerful.

In some cases, they may even become pathogenic if we start living in a world of our dreams. For example, dreams with money are often associated with winning a large sum from an unnamed source or becoming successful with tremendous luck in solving a complex issue that only your unique way of thinking can solve. But in many cases, people stop in the wishing and reaming phase and do not move further.

A classic example is an investing area. Many people may start investing money with the one thought in mind to become more prosperous within a shorter period. Instead, they read about the possibilities of winning and losing money faster. Conservative funds give a small amount of money for a significant period. Still, they are safer; while the risky investments can provide you with a more substantial profit, they can also cost many expenses and risk losing part of your invested money. A dreamer wants the best from both models – low risk and high profit in no time. But many dreamers stay in the same state because they do not accept change.

Dreaming, in other words, is a state of mind that gives us space to search for possible ways to advance. It creates a picture of success in time with the perfect look of how things should be presented for us to feel and see ourselves as successful and happy.

And after that period of dreaming is at its end comes the hard work. This we can call WANTING.

What is wanting? – It makes us think in steps, plan the future, and change our approach. Suppose you want something that means you have focused on the particular future picture you want to build. For example, years ago, I wanted to study psychology in high school. First, I dreamed of becoming a successful l therapist (and I had success in that area for a couple of years), then I wanted to help children grow and become a child psychologist, which I, by the way, still practice from to time. But my true passion that has become my profession is helping organizations to transform and people to develop and grow by changing structures, supporting learning, and planning with employees in the organizations I have worked with to become better versions of themselves.

Wanting means analyzing

When you want something, you need to first understand if it is possible in the environment you are operating and living in. Now that dreams have turned into focused want to have it or achieve it, the first step is to know the environment the best way. With that in mind, the person prepares for the challenge, change, and success.

Wanting means planning

To want something and to do some preparation is not enough. The most important part of the achieving process is the planning part. The better the person plans, the best result they will receive when executing the project to achieve the desired state. What makes a plan hard to reach is not the circumstances around us but the goal itself. The importance of this part of the process for getting what you want is that the person developing it has to focus on each detail. That means defining the best activities to happen, the most balanced and realistic deadlines for each, and the resources they will need to finish the plan according to its schedule. Getting the strategy right is a prerequisite for success in the next step – execution.

Wanting has to initiate the proper execution

While this sounds logical, according to an Inc. com article from 2021, sixty-one percent of the plans fail today. Many plans miss not the schedule, structure, or critical measurements for success but the internal drive to get things done. Plans are not only a written schedule of what is to happen. When executed as actions, they must be aligned with the internal motivation and engagement of the plan executioner. Different activities may lead to the same final result. If the person does not start doing that, they are internally motivated and engaged to – often, plan execution fails. In other words, executing without internal passion equals failure, but getting the right way and involving with actions and activities that suit internal understandings can help the person that runs the plan in reality move to success

Wanting has to be rewarded

To want something so desperately does not help if you do not stop from time to time to reward yourself for the small achievements toward the path of success. Intrinsic motivation and engagement must be boosted from time to time. And often, they are increased by giving our Ego the feeling of achieving success and being above others. Rewards do not have to be big and spacious, but they have to be meaningful for the person. The more significant the reward is, the more positive its effect can turn our dreams into real gains and success. That is why one may have to carefully consider the reward policy they sent for themselves and adjust the generic awards giveaways with their expectations, understandings, and values. Then only the reward can achieve what we call success in building more extraordinary results and a future.


The one that moves us from the past to the future is ourselves. Starting with dreaming, If we do not move to the execution of that dream with a clear and purposeful plan, we will only have a dream that will never come true. Planning for success by observing details and adding valuable milestones for ourselves in form of rewards can guarantee that we plan for success and achieve a better future.


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